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There comes a time when your parents start needing more supervision. At that point, it would be a good idea to have your aging parents move, either to downsize or to be closer to family. But don't expect that this will be a welcome change, at least not right away. Older people struggle with the idea of change to the point of fearing it. Because of fear of change, the brain seeks predictability and avoids uncertainty. For older people, uprooting their lives can be a source of the unknown.

Though people are hardwired to resist uncertainty, that doesn't mean they can't learn to adapt to change. It might take some convincing but your parents will eventually accept moving, provided that you guide them through the process. Here are four steps to help you do that:

1. Have serious talks with your parents

You're most likely going to have many tough conversations with your parents about this. But when you have the discussion, try to keep an open mind and practice empathy to understand where they're coming from. Their current house might be the one the family spent most of their years in—the one you grew up in—and it's easy to understand why they're having trouble letting it go. But try to explain your side of it, too. Assuring them that you'll be there for them could help them make the decision.

2. Assist with their finances

Other than being close to family, they might not have a choice but to move out given the current state of their finances. This is where you can step in by helping them sort out their savings and investments. First, understand what retirement plans are currently in effect to get a better sense of their income. It will also help you decide how much they need to downsize. You can set up checking and savings accounts for their daily use, as well as investment accounts to continue growing their wealth. A brokerage account could become a source of income for your retired parents, since it’s easy to manage and has access to various financial products. That said, make sure they understand the purpose of moving money around and they have a good grasp of their finances.

3. Make sure they're comfortable in their new place

Whether your parents are downsizing or moving in with a relative, their comfort and safety should be a priority. Before the move, make sure their new property is ready with the appliances and home systems set up. It can also be a good idea to invite some loved ones over to welcome them. Your parents need companionship, now more than ever. Give them plenty of opportunities to foster their relationships with family and friends, especially now that they're in a new place. Nurturing relationships is an important part of life, especially for seniors. The desire to connect and feel connected with others is a very human need. Plus, being surrounded by loved ones can help lessen the emotional strain of moving.

4. Be there for their needs

The process of relocating is long and tedious. Pair that with the emotional strain of leaving a special place behind and you can be sure that it's a tiring ordeal for your parents. While it would be ideal for you to attend to them every step of the process, this might not always be possible. So, just make sure that someone competent — a relative, a close family friend, or hired help — is present with them at all times to assist them. This lets them know that they're valued and that they have people to lean on.

Fear and uncertainty are normal when it comes to relocation, especially when the movers have grown to love their original home. But ensuring your parents' safety and convenience comes first, which is why moving becomes a necessity. The key is not to rush and to ease them through the process, especially if they're struggling with letting go. Eventually, they'll come around.